Trust and the Grand Canyon


I am officially a woman who goes backpacking.

I love to romanticize the idea of hiking and camping, living off the land, not caring about regular showers or plumbing in general. The earth is beautiful and mysterious and I so desperately want to feel One with it. A fan-girl of Cheryl Strayed’s Wild, I’ve wanted to experience the transformation of a woman who goes from total beginner to total badass on the trail. But the reality of what it takes to accomplish such a feat, as I found out a few weeks ago, requires more than just planning a cute hiking ensemble and daydreaming about the envy-worthy landscape photos I’d take.

Those bunch of times I car-camped with my family as a kid did not prepare me for what it was like to sleep in a two-person tent on a super windy Grand Canyon night on top of Horseshoe Mesa. Nor did all the trampoline and HIIT classes I took as training before this trip save my legs and ass from soreness and fatigue. I’m not sure anything could have prepared me for the fear I felt on our way out of the canyon, trying to navigate narrow and icy switchbacks with high exposure and a heavy bag about ½ my size on my back.

 This is where I admit I have zero tips to offer on backpacking or camping.

I wish I did. One day I would love to speak with authority about hydration tips on the trail and delicious and simple meal ideas guaranteed to satiate and satisfy! But I am humble enough now to recognize that I have a long way to go until then. I was mostly dehydrated the first day of our excursion no matter how much water I drank and my meal strategy all three days was to eat anything and everything anytime we stopped. We were burning so much energy! On the morning of day three we were only 30 minutes into the start of our hike before my stomach was growling and I was genuinely hungry again. We just had breakfast! Um, what?


What I really want to talk about is how it felt to willingly walk into a situation that was completely outside of my comfort zone. The weeks leading up to our trip filled with a mix of giddy excitement and anxiety dreams. I had been wanting to go to the Grand Canyon so badly the past few years; I do not know why. It was just a calling. My partner, Ben, surprised me with this trip and when he told me we were going I was crazy excited and completely intimidated.

Isn’t it strange you can feel called to something that also scares the sh*t out of you?

Fear isn’t always bad. Fear can protect us when we need it. But in this case, that fear felt like a decoy, trying to keep me in the comfort of my current homeostasis and distract me from growth. It also felt like a rite of passage. For three days in the Grand Canyon it was just me and Ben out in nature, working as a team to get from one camp to the next. Seeing landscapes that looked unreal to us – like someone had painted a backdrop of the Grand Canyon on a giant canvas for us to walk past and sleep next to. It was breathtaking and beautiful. In those moments that I did feel fearful I was still able to move forward. I was tired and sore and legit terrified at times, but I did not stop putting one foot in front of the other. Why? Why didn’t I just sit down and give up? Why didn’t I tell Ben “You know, I’m good. Go on without me. I’m just going to call for a helicopter or something”?


Because I wanted to finish this trip! I wanted to be an active participant, an equal partner in this experience with Ben. I wanted the satisfaction of being pushed to my limits and growing from that.

I wanted to have my own Cheryl Strayed, Wild-esque, Cinderella story where I witness my mental and physical selves evolve by the end of my story.

I trusted myself. But maybe more important on this adventure, when in doubt, I trusted my partner. Ben has a lot more experience than I do, so when I was not so sure that I could keep up with him, he assured me I could and I listened to that. When I was unable to see my next steps in the ice, Ben guided me. And I let him. When Ben first took me rock climbing last summer I remember thinking “all couples should be required to do this for team building”. Like a trust fall, but better. Rock climbing requires you and your partner to exercise clear communication, attention to detail, and trust (literally with your life). Now I feel the exact same way about backpacking.


When we decide to take new action in our nutrition and well-being journey we are going through these same steps: facing fears, coming up against resistance when our mind and body sense change, needing to practice trust in ourselves and maybe in others. In my mind, it doesn’t really matter if you are working on bringing in a new habit of making coffee at home in the morning instead of buying out to save money or lifting your tired boot to take yet another tough step on a trail. If it’s new, it’s new. And you have that decision to make every time – am I going to boil the water and pour it over the grounds today? Am I going to keep moving on this trail? What is my end goal? Will this help me get there? How badly do I want it? Will I show up for it?


At the end of the day I did still get my awe inspiring landscape photos from this backpacking trip. But as with most life changing experiences, the photos are not what I’m most proud of. I am proud of Ben for being such an amazing, strong, empathetic, thrill seeker who guided me with total grace. I’m proud of myself for being adventurous and brave and for embracing fear and trust in the same breath when necessary. I’m always impressed with our ability to act as a team. Which is definitely why I said yes when Ben asked me to marry him on day two of our trip!


We are planning to backpack for four days in the Grand Tetons this coming summer, but before getting too excited/intimidated about that I’m going to ride the high from this experience for a few more months!


Is there something you have experienced lately that required you to practice bravery and trust?
Tell me about it in the comments below!

How I’m staying present during the Holidays


It’s that time of year again! For some, the most wonderful, for others, the most stressful. The older I get the more I live somewhere snuggled right in the middle of the two. Not least of my worries is trying to calculate just how many cookies I can eat before getting a stomachache (because avoiding treats this time of year is virtually impossible, and really, why would you want to?). Or how to politely pass on a second helping of turkey and gravy for fear of my pants button popping off and landing in someone’s drink across the room. Take note! None of this is weight related – I am not interested in stepping on a scale or counting calories almost ever. It is in pursuit of making sure I feel well enough to continue to enjoy the company I’m around without distractions of uncomfortable bellyaches or brain fog from all the sugar I just pounded. Or worst of all, guilt about my food choices. My favorite part of the Thanksgiving to New Year season is all the people I get to spend time with, most of whom I probably only see during this stretch each year. The last thing I want is to be distracted during this time. So, if you’re like me and are feeling like you could use a few tips to help you be your most present and fun-loving self, here’s where I will be focusing my efforts this Holiday season:



1. Make a game plan.

First things first, know what you’re walking into and set some intentions before each party or event you go to. I am always more likely to leave a situation feeling good and like I took care of myself if I enter with clear intentions. This could look like eating a nutritious meal before going to that office holiday party so you don’t walk in starving and find yourself making dinner out of hors d’oeuvres and bite-size desserts. Or maybe you want to sign up for a local Turkey Trot or pre-festivities Soul cycle or yoga class to really rev up your appetite before a glorious day of eating. You can always recruit a buddy in the form of a family member, friend, or significant other to help you stick to your original intentions if you need a little extra support day-of. My partner can’t have dairy and I opt for gluten free, and I always find it easier to make good choices when I know we’re approaching a meal in solidarity of our respective restrictions. There is probably a little bit of misery loves company associated with that too, but hey whatever works!



2. Offer to bring a dish to pass.

If you know for sure there won’t be as many “goal friendly” options provided at a meal or party you’re attending, offer to make something! It’s a nice gesture to your host and will help you stick to your plan. Lactose intolerant? Bring a side of vegan mashed potatoes. Gluten free? Bring some stuffing or a dessert to share that you know you can eat worry-free. Last year’s green bean casserole leave you with bad feelings? Try this. Literally nothing green on the table? Get this guy in there. Whatever it is, you can definitely find a polite way to contribute an item you’ll feel good about eating.



3. Practice mindful eating.

Mindfulness is defined as “a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.” Mindful eating happens without judgment of food choices, but instead with curiosity and observation of how those things make you feel. What this looks like for me is making intentional food choices when assembling a plate for myself (the plan you put together will help you make these choices), chewing slowly, and taking time to savor both my food and my company. If I’m at a party, I also try to hold conversations in a comfy place away from the snack table. Generally speaking, if there is a dip nearby, I will park myself right by it and mindlessly dip and chat away. Creating some space between myself and the dip is a nice way to keep from unconsciously (or sometimes consciously) binging. Another mindfulness trick is to wait at least 10 minutes before going back for seconds to give our bodies time to digest food and then properly assess fullness. Overall it’s just good daily practice to take a minute to appreciate where we are and our good fortune in getting there.



4. Drink plenty of water/alternate alcohol and water.

Hydration is always where it’s AT! Water ensures proper transportation of our hormones, helps eliminate toxins out of our body, aids in blood-sugar regulation, and in some cases helps us to not overeat. (Ever think “I’m starving!” and then have a glass of water or two and realize you were just thirsty?) Any sober or sober curious friends out there? These mocktails are cute, festive, and refreshing! I am 100% going to have a couple of these available at my NYE party!



5. Enjoy that P-I-E!

If you are going to partake in some holiday treats, which I truly hope you do, include that in your original game plan for the day to eliminate the mental gymnastics that go on when we see something sweet and delicious but can’t help but also see the words “BAD” at the same time. Freaking ENJOY it! You don’t need to forgive yourself because you’re not doing anything wrong. You don’t need to make a comment about how you “probably shouldn’t go for that second piece of pie” while you place it on your little plate and then take a bite. That guilt isn’t serving you at all, in fact it’s a disservice to you. And to the pie, quite frankly.


Illustrations by Lauren Ward

Know the difference between tough-love and torture. Why you don’t need to bully yourself into maintaining health goals.

A word of caution.


This image popped up in my IG feed recently (hello November, where did you come from?) and from what I can tell, it’s a challenge meant to motivate you into finally doing that thing you’ve been talking about forever. Eat that kale! Join that gym! No laziness allowed! Go go go! Now listen, I am ALL for goal setting, and you know I love a good challenge (see my last blog about doing Whole30 for a second time) but I do want to say a few things about this idea of “no excuses”.

As a human who wears many, many hats (can you relate?) - professional dancer, social media manager, Nutrition and Wellness coach, full-time receptionist, friend, girlfriend, woman in a long-distance relationship, regular sufferer of FOMO, it is very easy for me to set too many goals for myself in a week. And when I do, I almost always fall short. Because what I was trying to accomplish wasn’t realistic to me and my current lifestyle. That’s not an excuse, that’s reality.

For example, over the summer I was very into 6am yoga classes before spending my day sitting in an office, but I could only maintain that for a short time before naturally it stopped making sense for my body.  When my alarm would go off at 5am and I would hit snooze because I was actually too exhausted to get up (not just your classic morning sleepiness) I would have this feeling of helplessness because I knew I had set this g-o-a-l for myself, but also, my body was clearly telling me that I needed rest. The reality here was that in addition to my day job, I also regularly had evening rehearsals after work that went until 9:00 and 10:00pm, or a social engagement, or just needed that extra hour to unwind before bed… It didn’t make sense for me to hold myself accountable for that morning class if it meant that I would be denying myself the rest I needed. And it didn’t make sense that I was beating myself up over not reaching my goal, if the goal itself wasn’t actually serving the purpose it was originally intended for – which was to make me feel good.

When I see things like #noexcusenovember pop up in my feed, it makes me a little nervous. We’re all susceptible to pushing too hard and not listening to our bodies. Especially as women trying to maintain status in today’s world - whatever that means to you and your story. I want to make sure that we’re aware of the difference between an “excuse” and the realities of our lives and situations. And that we are approaching goal-setting from a place of empowerment and self-efficacy. 

I would like to change #noexcusenovember to #nowsthetimenovember. If you’re feeling like you have some juicy goals you’ve been meaning to approach and NOW IS THE TIME, that’s super exciting! Here are a few ideas I work with my clients on when we start to talk about nutrition and wellness as lifestyle, and how to even begin incorporating those things into your busy life:

1. Goal setting is good, but it needs to be realistic.

If you never go to the gym, or are out of the routine of hitting that yoga or HIIT class on the regular, saying that you’re going to start doing these things every day right off the bat might not serve you in the way you are hoping. Never exercise? A good goal might be to hit a class or go for a run once or twice a week to start. Once that becomes part of your routine (aka you are starting to create habits) you can decide to increase or maintain your routine. Want to incorporate more nutrient-dense food choices into your meals? Find a hearty and healthy recipe that makes your mouth water and nourish your body with that. Maybe you start dedicating one night a week to cooking at home, and taking leftovers with you for lunch the next day and then see where that takes you. Need more sleep? Ugh, I feel you! Something what works for me is writing “Be Home” in my planner one evening a week to make sure that I have at least one night to myself to dedicate to rest. Do what feels good to you and your lifestyle. And be kind to yourself while you are in the process of change.

2. Is that an “excuse” you’re using, or do you genuinely need a break?

Be careful that you’re not pushing through actual warning signs that your body is giving you. Inflammation in the form of aching joints or sore muscles, mental exhaustion, even guilt that you missed a workout – none of these are healthy or sustainable ways to achieve a goal. I’m not saying that we all don’t need to push ourselves out the door sometimes, but know the difference between tough-love and torture.

3. You are not lazy.

Or a worthless POS. You do not need to bully yourself into creating or maintaining health goals. If you feel like you have fallen into some unhealthy habits and are struggling to make changes, there is probably a good reason for this. And it’s not that you suck. Survival manifests itself in a lot of different ways. Change is always there when you’re ready for it.

Me in bed early on a Tuesday night. This was scheduled in my planner.

Me in bed early on a Tuesday night. This was scheduled in my planner.